Thursday, February 12, 2009

Regret







Anna Quindlen reminds us not to rush past the fleeting moments. She said: “The biggest mistake I made [as a parent] is the one that most of us make. . . . I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of [my three children] sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages six, four, and one. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less”(Loud and Clear [2004], 10–11).



Yes, looking at family videos of when the older kids were small brings agreement to those profound thoughts. After seeing them, I wish I could back for just an hour and drink in those times. I love my teens, and love this time in their life as well, but there is just something about that *little* yummi-ness. :) Hopefully, I have learned a few things since then and won't feel the same way in the future when looking at videos of the current littles. Hopefully. :(

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Streams of consciousness from a mother of 10 who usually can't collect her thoughts and finds commas a nuisance.